The D-spot

Author: Dina Magaril

Let's talk about spanking. I think it's something that needs to be addressed. There exists a school of thought that believes that all human beings can be divided into spankers and spankees. This theory, as many of us are finding out by the time we hit our senior years, is entirely valid. We all love to spank, or to be spanked. Whether the need to spank comes from some twisted Freudian concept about mothers, children and naughtiness or simply from an acceptable imitation of what one sees in porn, the act of spanking has been executed, talked about or thought about in almost every sexual interaction.

Though women are just as likely as men to be spankers, it is often the men that are initiators of the act, whether verbally asking for permission, or simply tapping that behind. There is some dispute over why men feel the need to spank. Some say it is a way to exert control over their partners, others see it as a way to get closer to the often-neglected female derrière, while a few see it as completely instinctual and swear they didn't even notice they have spanked until being alerted to the location of their hands during foreplay.

There do exist those few unlucky individuals that have been completely absent from the spanking scene. Whether they are part of a couple or simply single and looking to spank, there's hope for you yet. There are still ways to bring up spanking if you are an amateur to the art. Like in most situations, there are appropriate and inappropriate times to bring up spanking. Foreplay is a good place to start. A partner may ask whether it is okay to spank, or even let one spank out and wait for a reaction. A spankee might at first be surprised but will most likely not be disappointed.

As with all intricate practices, there exist various levels and techniques of spanking, the better half of which I will impart to you all now. At the first level, there is the soft spank. This spank is usually practiced during more intimate interactions, such as post -coitus, or as you pass someone in the hall or in class. The soft spank may involve a simply pat of the palm or even a full-finger caress, depending on visibility and expertise of the spanker. The next level of spanking is the taut tap. This is most often practiced during foreplay, when parties are still partially clothed. This spank relies almost entirely on positioning of the fingers and involves little palm action. The taut spank can be interchanged with the soft spank on multiple occasions. Moving up along the spanking scale we come to the full out spank. This spank is not for novices and may leave a red mark on the buttock. This spank should be utilized as a signifier that foreplay is moving into home plate or can be practiced, with discretion, during the actual act.

As with all relationships based on equality and sharing, partners should switch off being the spankee and spanker. Each couple may find their own ways of doing this but may I suggest keeping a tally in plain view so as not to leave anyone out of the fun. For those who consider themselves professionals, the multiple hard spank may be employed. This remains the most controversial of the spanks and should only be practiced with consent. This spank is usually employed as one or more parties are reaching climax, and is often accompanied by a yell or whoop. Beware, the multiple spank may bruise for several days. As spring approaches and the campus beings to feel a bit friskier, don't be surprised to see your classmates bringing a pillow to class or gently massaging their backsides. The need to spank is in all of us, and once it rises to the surface, there's no telling what will happen.